Compassion first! This simple shift can make a tremendous difference in your life.
Stress comes from the feeling that a certain set of circumstances should not be happening. . . . Anxiety stems from the feeling that something should be happening that clearly isn’t.
The Revolutionary Trauma Release Process: Transcend Your Toughest Times (Namaste Publishing, 2008), 274
Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn,
A cool breeze in summer, snow in winter,
If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things,
This is the best season of your life.
Sadly we are an incredibly tribal species, and a major block to empathy comes from our tendency to form groups very easily and then become aggressive or contemptuous of other groups.
Your sense of self-esteem does not come from how other people see you, but from how you see other people. If you choose to see what’s missing, lacking, and not good enough, you not only inhibit change from occurring, you also destroy your sense of your own value. Feeling powerless, you are primed to blame others for your discomfort.